How to Date Your Spouse

My wife have been married about a year and a half.  We still try to go on actual planned dates as often as our crazy schedules permit.  This post is going to explain a simple strategy that will provide a ton of fun dates for you and your spouse and help get your significant other interested in the same things you are.

One interesting aspect of getting married is the combining of different interests and skills.  For example: My wife is a great runner. Me, not so much.  I also have interests that she hadn’t had a lot of experience with.  I love to golf and fly fish.  Before we got married I think she’d done each of them about 2 times.  If I could I would go golfing once a week but at the beginning this meant me leaving her at home while I went out with my buddies.  I started by planning a Friday evening driving range date with my wife.  I took it very slow and eventually she was asking me when we were going to go out on the course.  Now she has her own golf clubs and bag.  Anytime we end up at a sporting good store she heads over to take a look to see which golf shoes she might want to buy.

Don’t worry guys, I still am able to go out with my friends and have a more serious round of golf.  Now I just get to play a whole lot more and get to enjoy it with my wife.  If you and your spouse find yourselves doing different things that you each enjoy separately try asking them to go on a date with you doing the activity you love.  Be super patient with them and pretty soon you’ll both be loving that activity.

How to be good in a relationship with her?

There are three reasons not to go with somebody.

1. Having an obsessive personality
2. Not strict in their self-discipline
3. Having negative thoughts

They further intend to rationalize their thoughts and opinions with giving suitable excuses even though somebody points out their flaw, such as

“An obsession is love!”, “Doing self-care is an expense!”, or “I am fat and ugly!”…

To change one’s mind and thoughts is not easy and there is no accurate way, but I want to share my ideas with you how they can change their mind and what is the best way.

Firstly, I have to love myself first. It is true that to love something costs time and effort. To take care of myself means enhanced my value. If I regard myself as a mature and valued person, I would love me. People say to love and to be loved is the greatest happiness in life. If you would be loved, love me and others.

Secondly, we can be loved and start a romantic relationship, and it is quite right to saying so. When you go to the second floor of UV library, you can see a well-known saying ‘Knowledge is power’. We don’t jump into the water before learning how to swim. Relationship is the same as this. We have to learn to love others and try to look on the bright side.

It is time to gather heart. Giving up is what you need to do for the last thing.

Easy First Date

I know it’s been done, but Miniature Golfing has its benefits. Don’t judge me yet! There is method to my underwhelmed madness. Ok, so the layout of the whole putt putt course looks like it came out of a scene from Mr. Rogers neighborhood; but this is a moment to see how your date will react to simple fun. If your having trouble getting over the puppet windmill, try to find a course that is unique. These days I have seen several courses that use 3D images, or incorporate an artists touch, not everything has to be “cheesy”. Just remember, it’s a first date! The first date is supposed to be about talking, flirting, and finding a way to open up with this new person. You don’t have to go over the top when your just getting to know each other, and this date is more like a long walk and you still get to show off your mad skills on the ramp that the ball wont go up.

Just a few things to remember:

~Watch your swing… I almost hit my date in the head with the putter and the ball had the speed to knock out a t-rex.

~Be wary of how competitive you get. If your both laughing, it’s all in good fun; but if you hit the ground with the putter or throw it at some old people, your date is going to freak out and try to get a ride home with some one else.

We've Been There

If you haven’t been there, don’t worry, someday you will be. There are good dates and there are bad dates, and we are going to share our experiences with you. From the horrific, to the embarrassing, to the OMG Best Time of My Life!! Then we will most likely share some of our random thoughts and ideas about the dating game. We aren’t experts (is anyone really), but like you, we share and our friends share, and then their friends share, and before you know it we are all getting the same answers. Some of us are single, and some of us are married, or single again. Point is, we’ve been there.