I have always loved superheroes.
I have been intrigued by how they are so willing to help other people because they recognize that is who they are. It is in their nature to serve, help, and save. They don't do something and then expect reciprocity, they do something and if someone reciprocates-I applaud them.
Reciprocity is something to be valued. Not something to expect.
One of my church leaders from when I was a youth told me this story once. He said he was way outside of town on a date. They were at an area called Nutty-Putty caves and they were going there for a date and then heading back home in the late afternoon for the local school dance.
"My tire blew out." He said. "I didn't have tools, or a spare. We were stuck."
(Now-I didn't ask him this, but I wonder if that made the date a little more awkward.)
He told me that he wasn't sure what to do, and he knew he needed someone to help him quick.
"It was getting dark, and I wanted to at least get my date home." He stated.
He told me that he said a prayer. Nothing huge, he just asked for help and he promised that if they could have help, he would do everything he could the rest of his life to stop and help others who were stranded.
He had decided that reciprocity was something he valued.
"No more than 10 seconds after that, a truck pulled over. He hooked my car up and towed me home."
I've heard countless stories since then of this man helping others. From older women stranded in a blizzard, to ladders falling from a construction truck.
I can know what you value by what you do, more than what you say.